worst day of my life

i know you guys cant sympathize with me..

but my girlfriend and i of 2 years broke up...it wasnt a nasty one, but i mean, i didnt want it to end but i';ll respect her enough to not make a fight of it and leave on good terms...

but we spent around 3-4 days a week together for the entirety... planned of getting married someday...she had a miscarriage a few months back... yeah, im 19 and shes 17 but it felt like it was going to happen for a long time...

we both love each other very much, but to think i will never get to hold her, kiss her, etc...ever again hurts... posting this on a subaru site isnt apperant but i feel like shit so. get over it...

i have no one to turn to, my 2 best friends left for the military and the other moved to Seattle..i lost all of my guys friends in that 2 years..

i know it wont be easy to go out and meet new people seeing as how im not in high school anymore (that and i want her back)

and what makes it even harder is that she lives about 4 houses down the street from me...not too easy to forget.

i feel like downing a half-gal of some black velvet and dying in the hospital..

anyone else been in my position..? what did you to to cope with it?
:smt009 :-( :smt010

oh.. and even if i did want to go out and see new people.. my fucking car is broke and i dont have a cell phone becasue i have so much other shit to pay for...

[99SUS SFD]

Yeah, been there done that. Best thing to do is not feel sorry for yourself, talk about it, and give it time. Time heals all wounds. Trust me. You're right, a Subaru site isn't appropriate for this kind of thing but if it helps you out then go for it. But you may be better off talking to someone in your life about it. Friends or family are good for that. Plus you're young so you've got an entire life ahead of you to deal with this kind of shit over and over again haha. But seriously it's really not the end of the world. Give yourself time.

[GTDrifter]

a couple years ago me and my gf of about 2 years broke up...she got all my friends against me
i just said screw it and started talking to random people lol
youll get thru it...spend the time to fix your car, get a job, and grab a cell phone

well we're not out to fuck each other over... there are still feelings but god damn i want her back..but i'll respect her wanting to end it..

anyways i have very little guy friends becasue of that 2 years and the ones i have arent close enough to talk to..

idk, im just a bitch..

[anothernord]

Yeah keep busy doing projects or whatever, it will help keep your mind busy and keep you from becoming emo.

[Reason]

Yeah keep busy doing projects or whatever, it will help keep your mind busy and keep you from becoming emo.

He said it, keep busy and out out with friends and family.We were all there at one point. You are 19 and you WILL move on. You may feel like you won't but you are still young. Same shit happened to me a few years ago, it's tough but you will pull through. You will find someone that will make you forget about her.

[SilentRacer]

Give it a few weeks, she'll be back.

[peugoby]

Give it a few weeks, she'll be back.
LOL.

I been there man. It takes time. Stay as busy as possible, get a job, work on your car, start running and most importantly don't feel sorry for yourself. Get a gym membership and get in shape, just don't dwell upon the situation, trust me it only makes it worse. MOST importantly, don't call Her begging for her back - its done.

i have a job, lol

i hope its as simple as she'll come back...

it just happened today..i wont be begging for her back... if its meant to be, it'lll find away..

cheesey as it may be... my mom sent me this link...

and holy shit its true lol
http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Men-Handl ... &id=576989 (http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Men-Handle-Breakups-Differently-Than-Women---Men-and-The-Way-They-Handle-It-When-They-Breakup&id=576989)

[AJM]

You're going to be fine kid, just keep going.

[subba]

go clean your car when you think of her, dont go out and drink or try to find someone else, you will regret the time wasted :(

[henryq89]

GET FUKD! LOL

this is what i did with my ex ex lol....we broke up durin the summer .... i calld my buddy;s headed to seaside heights and partied the weekend away with bitchz andd booze haha


Give it a few weeks, she'll be back.


this man speaks the TRoOF hahah....

dude im 19 also and i broke up with my girl 6 months and well i moved on got a new car got involved in projects school friends parties etc.... she was back 3 weeks later adn i said no ...and im happy as can be :lol:

[1996Battlewagon]

get a job, work on your car, start running and most importantly don't feel sorry for yourself. Get a gym membership and get in shape

+1 Do this, it will make you feel better.


GET FUKD! LOL

Don't do this. It'll make you feel like shit and you'll probably just drunk call her and make an ass of yourself. Besides, girls are not that big into drunken sleazebags (I'm assuming).

[BigLooga1]

Hey man your just 19, don't worry about it.

Life is a problem and your job is to find solutions.

Everytime you have a problem think about it for a second.... you have a girlfriend problem and your car is broken. You think that's a problem, seriously? You could be dying of an illness, you could have been born with 1 leg....think about it, your one lucky mofo to be healthy, having parents and a friggin roof over your head at night to sleep.

Everytime you have a problem and you feel like crap, think about it... you ain't got no problem man.

Life is good baby go and enjoy it.

PS when i say "your only 19" it's not a prejudice you've got alot ahead of you.

J-L

[Plays_with_Toys]

Been there twice. So far. I had a 1.5 year and a just shy of 2 year relationship. They both sucked. Bad. But you get through it and you're wiser on the other end. It'll sting for a while, and if she was really your "first love" nothing will quite feel the same, but honestly I found that it was easier to open up to others after that first one.

As for meeting friends and such, my advice would be to avoid meeting bar/club girls, and definitely for meeting coffee shop and library girls. They tend to be less skeazy and less psycho.

she was and is my first love,

EVERYTHING i do and EVERYWHERE i go has memories of times with her...

and like i said before.. she lives just down the street... which imo makes this a billion times harder than it would be if she lived elsewhere

[WinterKnoll]

she was and is my first love,

EVERYTHING i do and EVERYWHERE i go has memories of times with her...

and like i said before.. she lives just down the street... which imo makes this a billion times harder than it would be if she lived elsewhere


That does make things very difficult...I have been there before, perhaps not quite on the same level, but for me, finding another hobby or something to do with my time was very helpful. I turned to skiing and skiing has become a tremendous part of my life (Skied over 60 days last year). I'm kind of repeating a lot of advice that's already been given here, but there's no real easy way to get through it, however you can take your mind off things by keeping busy and trying to find new interests. Getting yourself fucked, Henry, never really helps things in the long run, and I also wouldn't advise trying to date other girls for atleast a little while. Just give it some time.

[Perdue]

Hey, Justin. I haven't been around here and hadn't seen you on 360 so I had no idea this was going on. If you need someone to talk to, drop me a PM and I'll give ya my number to text me or whatever.

To offer a few words, I think we've all been there before. It sucks to walk away from someone you love, even if it's not on bad terms (sometimes that makes it that much harder). The truth of the matter is that the memories will fade and life will go on, even though it doesn't seem like it now. It all just takes time, but it will get better. Hang in there and keep your head up...remember you really never gotta go it alone. If ya need me, holler.

Edit: I know someone suggested finding a hobby, and I know you're short on money, but it's maybe a good idea. You were looking at the USMC...could start running now to pass the time, and then by the time you make it to basic, it'll all be cake...except for the drill instructors, but hey, you can't have it all.

[subba]

GET FUKD! LOL

this is what i did with my ex ex lol....we broke up durin the summer .... i calld my buddy;s headed to seaside heights and partied the weekend away with bitchz andd booze haha

obvious you didnt want to be in a relationship lol

[impreza_GC8]

Been there done that. First love, first real relationship, everything reminds you of her, could actually see yourself being with her for a long time yatta yatta. Thats called your first love. Everyone has one, everyone loses theirs except for like .02 percent of humanity. How you deal with this will shape who you are and how you deal with future relationships. The way I dealt with it was to become bitter and cold and now theres nobody I really love and I've had a few relationships since but as bad as that sounds, all it means is that I'm waiting for the person who will make me feel that way again. So that I can get effed over again most likely LOL! Sorry to joke about it but I mean it when I say how you deal with this will affect how you handle your future relationships. It took me years and many sad nights to get over mine and we still talk now and as I've matured I've realized just how immature that girl was and still is. I can tell you that me and my 2.5RS grew very close in the time following the end of that relationship. Hold on to your car, they never bitch at you and they always want to have a good time!

PS - I'm young too by the way, just so you don't think this is some old guy who has it all figured out thinking back on the old days.

[2.5GT]

Hey, listen to this song by Eminem :wink:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQq3d_3CYac

[dplacencia]

Hang in there buddy. I have also been there. Like the other guy's said try to keep your mind occupied. :wink:

Good luck

[warrior]

Dude, that sucks!

Sorry to hear that.. but check it out.. in order to rebuild something, you first need to destroy it. So now that you're all broken and shit (the destruction part) now you can rebuild yourself, how you want too.

There's a few simple processes that help in rebuilding.

1.) Find an outlet. Whether it be writing, drawing, building projects.. do something that you've always wanted to do and never did it. That's the first step.

2.) Since you won't forget, you'll never forget, but you need to learn to allow these memories to exist and over time the things you want to forget, you will forget.. just not right now.

3.) Meet new people, even strangers, just simple hellos, this will help you realize that just because one person in your life isn't there anymore, life still goes on, people will still appreciate you and your time.. you need to be social.. in the simplest of forms or else you'll dig yourself in to a deep hole and end up like a hermit.

After that's all said and done, you'll be a better person, stronger and what not.. I look back at myself when I was in your position and I laugh that some girl broke my heart.. hah! Funny stuff for me now, not so funny for you... yet. :smt023

[henryq89]

Hang in there buddy. I have also been there. Like the other guy's said try to keep your mind occupied. :wink:

Good luck

take it from a married dude lol!

[henryq89]

GET FUKD! LOL

this is what i did with my ex ex lol....we broke up durin the summer .... i calld my buddy;s headed to seaside heights and partied the weekend away with bitchz andd booze haha

obvious you didnt want to be in a relationship lol


haha i was in love with her....well i WAS haha summer is the best

[WinterKnoll]

The way I dealt with it was to become bitter and cold and now theres nobody I really love and I've had a few relationships since but as bad as that sounds, all it means is that I'm waiting for the person who will make me feel that way again.


+1 for me....that's exactly what happened to me. Haven't been doing so well in the girl department for quite a few years. But I am past it and don't really think about it anymore.

[BE-Fresh]

you're 19.. Get money, fuck bitches. end of story

[henryq89]

you're 19.. Get money, fuck bitches. end of story


+1

[Perdue]

+1 for me....that's exactly what happened to me. Haven't been doing so well in the girl department for quite a few years. But I am past it and don't really think about it anymore.

I haven't been doing so well in the gir...wait a minute...nevermind. :grin:

[GTDrifter]

im in the same boat you are now
my girlfriend broke up with me monday...she was with her exboyfriend sunday and apparently her pants were off..our anniversary was 4 days ago

[henryq89]

im in the same boat you are now
my girlfriend broke up with me monday...she was with her exboyfriend sunday and apparently her pants were off..our anniversary was 4 days ago


dude thats sucks so bad pants off and the anniversary was 5 days ago....maybe she was playing a game :lol: (just trying to light up the mood )

im in the same boat you are now
my girlfriend broke up with me monday...she was with her exboyfriend sunday and apparently her pants were off..our anniversary was 4 days ago


fuck ho's man...i feel for ya

cant live with em.. cant live without em

[99gtlimited]

keep your head up dude, you still have plenty of good things going for you (first name for example), you just need to stop focusing on the bad and do what you can with the good.

Go skydiving or something that'll remind you of how alive you still are even though you feel like part of you died.

Often times like these are the best for a big change in your life, new job, new girl, new city..... etc.
Do what makes you happy and forget the rest. And trust me when i say this THERE WILL BE ANOTHER GIRL, but not another life to live, so don't waste it. Perfect time to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life, just stop thinking about what could've been and focus on what will be.

to quote the fresh prince "don't mean to burst your bubble, but girls of the world ain't nothin' but TROUBLE"

life comes in cycles, you just gotta ride out the bad till your back on top.

or you can do what i do :smt025 :smt025 :smt025 :smt025 :smt025 :arrow: :grin:


P.S. great spot for post 500!!

[BE-Fresh]

or you can do what i do :smt025 :smt025 :smt025 :smt025 :smt025 :arrow: :grin:


And then look up retarded animal babies on youtube :smt023

[AkumaMax]

i know you guys cant sympathize with me..

but my girlfriend and i of 2 years broke up...it wasnt a nasty one, but i mean, i didnt want it to end but i';ll respect her enough to not make a fight of it and leave on good terms...

but we spent around 3-4 days a week together for the entirety... planned of getting married someday...she had a miscarriage a few months back... yeah, im 19 and shes 17 but it felt like it was going to happen for a long time...

we both love each other very much, but to think i will never get to hold her, kiss her, etc...ever again hurts... posting this on a subaru site isnt apperant but i feel like shit so. get over it...

i have no one to turn to, my 2 best friends left for the military and the other moved to Seattle..i lost all of my guys friends in that 2 years..

i know it wont be easy to go out and meet new people seeing as how im not in high school anymore (that and i want her back)

and what makes it even harder is that she lives about 4 houses down the street from me...not too easy to forget.

i feel like downing a half-gal of some black velvet and dying in the hospital..

anyone else been in my position..? what did you to to cope with it?
:smt009 :-( :smt010

oh.. and even if i did want to go out and see new people.. my fucking car is broke and i dont have a cell phone because i have so much other shit to pay for...


Wow man that sux. I was in a situation similar to this. My girlfriend/Fiance of 2 years had broke up with me because I was spying on her when she was out with one of her old guy friends that she had a huge crush on way before I was even in the picture. Anyway she caught me and was really freaked by it. I didn't mean no harm but she couldn't drop it. We ended up breaking up a few days after that fiasco and calling off the marriage. This was a big blow to me since it was my first love period. I couldn't eat, sleep, felt like killing myself everyday! Anyway I held my own got into a few fights with her friends over the killing myself thing. Needless to say I have not been the same since. My heart was broken and is still very broken. On top of all this happening we had just signed a lease for 1 year on an apartment. So whilst I was at work she was at home with her friends and the guy she had a crush on. This did not help the situation at all. So i decided to be a man and pack up and leave. Boy was she shocked when she got home to find out I was leaving. A few weeks later we talked and ended up getting back together. The weird thing is that a little while after that the guy she was seeing got drunk and drove his car at 100mph through a red light splitting a CR-V in half(his was a 97 Saab 9-5aero) and then sliding into a tree decapitating himself then sliding into a shell gas station starting a fuel pump fire. All of that happen on her birthday as well. I really wish that none of this happend to me. The reason I say is that it has changed me in an emotional way. I don't really have feelings anymore. It's like I am cold hearted. No matter how hard I try I can't seem to fix it.

[henryq89]

omg AkumaMax that sucks.... RIP random dude